I’m just upset because it’s going to force an anniversary convo between W and I.
Really? "I'll text m y mom. ::eye rolls:: I don't think either of us wants a visit!" That should only lead to an "anniversary conversation" if your wife wants to have an anniversary conversation.
Originally Posted by ozman
My mom will ask why and then she will pry and then pry some more then she will tell me I am a bad son and remind me of how great a mother she was and then tell me how her kids are awful to her. Then when she hangs up..She will also tell us happy anniversary about 600 more times and then the morning after our anniversary call us and msg us and want to know what we did and how proud she is of our M and how we are such a good couple and a bunch of really mushy marriage stuff.
So, you have boundary issues with my mom. I used to have that same problem!!
This is a great area for a 180! Instead of calling her, reply in whatever format she sent the message (e-mail, text). There's a "Hide Alerts" button on most phones so her messages don't trigger rings, beeps, vibrations, or notifications and you can review them at your convenience.
At a later date, consider being clear about how much communication you'll accept from mom. I told my mom to only e-mail unless there was an emergency--she didn't listen, so block. She FB messaged me--unfriend. Now she only e-mails, like I asked her to do originally.
Originally Posted by ozman
she will start blowing up Ws phone and asking questions and prying for info from her and wanting to know how our M is and going crazy on my W. It’s like she will put on tons of pressure on W all by herself weather I like it or not. She would call and msg my W prolly 20 times a day and try to fix our M for us.
Your wife will either block her or engage--you don't control your wife. If she asks for help, you can show her the "Hide Alerts" button so she's not getting bombarded either.
