I wouldn't ask her to dinner. That is over the line. But since your mom ripped that bandaid off I was going with it.
I agree. Oz, tell your W to disregard your mom's message. Then contact your mom and tell her that is very kind of her, but she needs to butt out and never to do that again without asking you first because the situation is much more dire than she realizes and she is making things worse by trying to intervene. Say it lovingly but firmly.
Problem solved, now don't post again until you have some juicy GAL to share with us.
