I love the 2x4s. It really helps. I wish I had a microphone and an earpiece so you could tell me what to say. Every time I read what I should have said I always say to myself why didn’t I think of that. I validate but you and some of the others on here say it so much better.
It takes a lot of practice. Try it with your kids, especially your daughter
Originally Posted by Wolfman
you ask what are the changes. I’m just going to list them: I go to IC, I barely yell anymore, I really listen to what she says, I keep better track of the kids activities that a lot of times now she asks me what they have and which day, I don’t complain about the house, I don’t complain about money, upbeat and happy all the time. She has made comments about a few of these things that she has noticed.
Come on Wolfy. These are either exaggerations of the truth or things you are doing to get her back. We have just established that you don't really listen to her.
Originally Posted by Wolfman
One thing you said LH I really don’t understand. You said I suffer because I choose to suffer.
Are you healthy? Are your kids healthy? Do you have friends and family? Do you have a job? Do you have a roof over your head? Do you have food to eat?
Originally Posted by Wolfman
I try very hard everyday to find positive things and to stay focused on that. But my mind goes back to the memories of the past. I keep telling myself to leave them there but they come back.
Stay in the present Wolf. Yesterday is gone and tomorrow isn't here yet.
Originally Posted by Wolfman
I tell myself I have women hitting on me and there are plenty of fish in the sea but then my mind will say I don’t want those “fish”
It's because you are not ready. You will be in the future. Then you will realize how ridiculous it was for you to put up with the bs.
