Set a boundary that you won't tolerate verbal abuse. That will improve your communication. Done.
Listen, you are spinning. Every vet here is telling you the same thing... first, earn back your respect. You are way too focused on winning your W back when she is giving all signs that she wants to walk all over you. Helping more around the house right now is not going to help. Not taking your W granted right now is not going to help. It is good to think about these things, but they are also confusing your thoughts and you have a lot swirling around in your brain right now.
Also I'll stand by what I said before... Do not sign any papers if she throws then at you and insists. I don't care if she says the SWAT team is outside the door ready to take you away. Take your time. Read them... you will have time to respond. "OK, I need some time to review these" "When will you sign them?" "I don't know, I need some time" "blah blah blah" "I'm sorry you feel that way, I need some time" Stand up for yourself. Good for you, and good for your relationship because you are commanding some respect. See how it works?
