Which then I got roped into a relationship talk. Which I know is a no no here.
You know its a no no but yet you still got roped in and paid the price yet again.
Originally Posted by Wolfman
In that talk the reason that she is divorcing me is so ridiculous. I know to her these are real problems but for the average married couple they are nothing.
99% of the problems here are fixable if you get two people committed to fixing them. Your sitch isn't unique wolf.
Originally Posted by Wolfman
She said things like when she went back to work at night I didn’t text her which was only twice a year. That she felt like I didn’t love her or care. That when she would come home from work I wouldn’t greet her hello all the time. That I would just yell downstairs hello.
I am sorry you felt that way. You must have felt unloved. Is that how you felt?
Originally Posted by Wolfman
The reason I told her I didn’t run downstairs I was in our office make business calls. It wasn’t like I was watching tv or playing video games I was working.
Logic and reason and invaliding her feelings. DB 101
Originally Posted by Wolfman
She claims there was times she was crying in bed and I did nothing.
I am sorry you felt that way. You must have felt alone. Is that how you felt. DB 101
Originally Posted by Wolfman
Last she said I see the changes but she doesn’t believe they will stay.
I agree with her. What are these changes? That you understand her feelings? Because clearly you don't.
Originally Posted by Wolfman
I know I said it before, it’s so sad to me that she wants to break up a family over things that are very fixable.
Yep. You are like a broken record.
Originally Posted by Wolfman
Anytime I brought all the ways I have helped her she would dismiss it like they were not important.
Maybe they weren't important to her. Most of them were covert contracts anyway.
Originally Posted by Wolfman
How I took on a second job so we could afford the 5 vacations a year. How I would run to the supermarket after work so she didn’t have to food shop.
Maybe vacations weren't important to her and she just wanted more of your time.
Originally Posted by Wolfman
Did I have my faults sure. I have owned up to them and improved myself because of that. No m is perfect and there will be ups and downs, but she is so stuck on the negatives in our m then all the good that came from it and the fun we had.
Again, what are these improvements?
Originally Posted by Wolfman
Why do they get so stuck on the negative? What triggers this person that use to love is with all their heart paint is as a terrible person and only remember the negative? How does a recognize the changes but then continue on this destructive path?
Because they are unhappy and it is their belief that we are the cause of their unhappiness.
Originally Posted by Wolfman
And the biggest one, why does it look like this doesn’t phase them in the least and I am the one suffering real bad?
You are suffering so bad because you choose to suffer.
Originally Posted by Wolfman
Why would they want to be a single parent instead of trying to work things out?
So she can haveher freedom, date other men and if that doesn't work out run right back to the wolfster.
Originally Posted by Wolfman
I know I need to let go and some days I feel fine and ready to move on, others my mind goes back to all these questions.
Well now that I have answered your questions, maybe you can start to make some real changes and move forwards. You are stuck my friend and will continue to be stuck until you start to love yourself and realize that life is to short for this BS.
