She also said i was acting like a d*ck and a douchebag and a b*tch because i told her no and stuff
Wow JB I can't believe the disrepect you are allowing yourself to be subjected to over and over. My XW would NEVER, EVER say things like that to me, not when we were married, not after bomb drop, and not now years after our divorce. NEVER. I don't care how bad you think you "need" her, no human being should EVER allow someone else to treat them like this. You can stop this and stop it NOW. If she EVER says something like that to you then you look her square in the eye and you tell her you will not tolerate being spoken to in such a manner and until she takes on a more respectful tone you will NOT have this or any other conversation with her. Then LEAVE. Leave the room or leave the house.
If the others haven't already made this abundantly clear to you- you have ZERO chance of reconciling with her as long as you continue to let her disrespect you like this. She has no attraction to you right now. First you have to gain her respect, then she might start seeing you differently.
Originally Posted by Jb2019
She said it is my fault that the utility bill is so high, and that her depression and anxiety and spening time out is brcause of me too
Don't respond to crap like this. Don't reply, don't engage.
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So what do i do if i want to keep her
Let her go. Quit letting her abuse and belittle you. Be a man again. Find yourself. Rebuild your confidence. Make yourself smarter, better looking, more fit, better dressed, better groomed. Don't look back. THEN she might be interested in you again.
Originally Posted by Jb2019
I went to in the bed and she took her pillows and a cover and is laying on the couch, didn’t even say anything about her wanting the bed and the room.
GOOD. You stay in the bed. You let her sleep wherever she wants. Couch, floor, in the bed next to you, in the back yard, wherever. It should all be the same to you.
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She did change her facebook status to single, which hurts.
Quit looking at her FB. Block her if you can't stop yourself from looking.
Originally Posted by Jb2019
I was expecting her to come to bed with me or say something about me sleeping elsewhere whenever she decided to lay down, but she went with just laying on the couch. Idk how things will go from here..
Quit expecting anything of her. She's checked out. Drop all expectations. Focus on YOU.
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She said its my fault she was late for work because she’s depressed
More disrespect. Don't respond, just ignore this kind of stuff.
Originally Posted by Jb2019
If the papers come in do i sign them? And how long can i expect her to sleep elsewhere? And will she just continue sleeping with me when she sees that i’m not moving
Do you agree with the terms? If you do then sign, if you don't then don't sign. Regarding where she sleeps, no she probably won't return to the bed. Your focus is in the wrong place. Focus on YOU and making yourself "the spouse only a fool would leave". You are not that right now, but you can be. It'll take many months of hard work. Time to get started.
EDIT- you're past 10 pages, time for a new thread. Title it the same or something different with "part 2" on it. Post a link to this thread in your first post in the new one, and post a link to the new thread in your last post in this one.
