It’s like at this point she's just trying to say and do whatever she can to hurt me, and she knows what will work on that.. idk if i should believe what she’s saying
JB - "Believe none of what she says and only half of what she does."
This is DB scripture. Memorize it. When you W talks and threatens you, listen, validate, and your goal should be to have zero... ZERO... emotional turmoil. Set a boundary that you will not tolerate verbal abuse. It's an impossible goal to achieve when things are intense like this, but that should be your goal.
Her: "Blah blah blah" You: "I'm sorry you feel that way, I imagine it is quite frustrating." [listen, validate] Her: "Blah blah blah restraining order blah blah blah court costs blah blah blah." You: "I cannot continue this conversation if you are going to threaten me." [boundaries]
Originally Posted by Jb2019
What if she insists, she said if i don’t sign that’ll make things even worse between us and that she would make me pay for court costs and possibly get a restraining order and force me out and that i couldn’t see the dogs or her anymore then even as a friend
Don't you dare sign those papers because your W insists! Seriously.
It may help calm you to go speak to a L. Many offer free consults for the first 45-60 minutes. Get informed. You aren't obligated to tell your W.
Yeah, she may file a frivolous RO or make this overly litigious. That [censored], it happens to some of us. Just make sure to think clearly about what you want -- caving to her demands is not going to earn back your respect, and you will regret it regardless of how your MR ends up.
