Is it over?

[Jac12]

You can't control her. If you want to keep her, pull back and focus on you. I know it's hard - I'm still learning to do that in my situation. But letting go and focusing on being a better you is the best thing you can do right now if you want to get her back. Even then, it may not change her mind. But you'll be better.

I read today that in these situations you just have to consider the relationship over and move on like you would otherwise. It doesn't mean you can't listen and validate her feelings when she chooses to talk. But you have to move forward without her and focus on you.