CW - For some people like me, NMMNG reads like a freakin' biography. You may or may not get the same mileage out of it. I do highly recommend it.
Same for me. I was shocked at how much I identified with it.
And I'm not going to lie: it stung, because for so long I felt that being a nice guy was what separated me, and the refrain I'd hear from people "You're such a great guy!" really validated me. I wasn't until I read the book that I learned the hard downside - so many covert promises, so much people pleasing, so many problems with integrity and shame.
I wish I would have read it a year ago, as I think it would have made a difference in my MR. All I can do now is commit to getting emotionally healthy, and hope that there's a MR to go back to after S.
