Jb, your W has no respect for you. And respect is closely linked to attraction. So you have to do things that command respect. Like NOT giving up the MBR. No matter what. No matter how mad it makes her. Yes the book AND sandi's rules apply here. You have a Wayward Wife, and sandi's rules are specifically for a WW.
You need to stand your ground. You need to command respect. Even if he is gets angry and mad and even hates you for it!
On your last question, the answer is NO. You listen to her. And validate her. PERIOD.
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018