- Him not being welcome in my home going forward. (part of me wants to add unless we are reconciling the marriage, but I think that may be too much)
I'm not sure what you mean by this? If you mean you don't want him just coming over and hanging out in the house that's fine, say something like "Now that you've moved out I feel like I could use some time to adjust to this new living situation, so I would appreciate it if you could respect my privacy from now on" and then maybe give some details on what that means. As an example, after my XW moved out she would just come over and let herself in and go through things. I finally told her "I would appreciate it if you could respect my privacy and let me know in advance if you plan on coming over, and knock on the door when you get here and I will let you in. Also please try and get the rest of your stuff out by XX date so we can be done with this." A lot of WAS's do the "slow bleed" thing where they find all kinds of excuses to come over to grab a pair of shoes they forgot or whatever. Of course they would be SHOCKED if you went to their new place and just walked in, the nerve! But they certainly have no problem making themselves at home at your place!
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- Limiting communication to be about the kids and using email, he can call if it is an emergency (he likes to not respond to texts and he's hung up on me a few times in the past).
Sounds reasonable. Just try to use "I" language. "I need some time to adjust, it would help me if we limit contact to kids, I hope you understand."
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- Closing out the joint account and having him send the support money to my personal account.
I'm curious why you want to do this? You can leave the joint account open and whenever he pays into it just transfer it into your account, correct? If this hasn't been a problem you might leave it as-is for now.
