Daily rollercoaster of emotions

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I agree with peacetoday and would encourage you not to engage in conversations about his R with the OW on any level. You do not want to be seen as the teacher/mother watching his progress on the one hand, and for yourself, that is an emotional rollercoaster you do not need to ride. I'd just say lightly, "Let's just enjoy each other's company when we are together, I don't need to know about that." And when you get to the point that for your own peace/sanity, you have to know if it's over to know if you want to spend time with him, you can set the boundary then -- e.g., "I would love to see you tonight but I am at a point in my own life journey that I can't spend time with you until I know you aren't seeing someone else. Whenever you are at that point,I am here."

Like I said, I would do whatever with my H if he was doing that, but I would assume the entire time it meant nothing and not try to work out any R stuff for a very long time. My H seemed to be coming back several times. Where I am now is the pit of pits -- check my thread for proof! And your sitch is not mine of course, this might be a turnaround and all will be well, but for the sake of real movement forward for the long term, I would hold back on R talk for a very long time. Enjoy being with him if you can, let him come home if you want, I just wouldn't rush the actual R talk for a long time.