Maybe I know what to do 5

[Traveler]

Very serious question. I was reading on another website about MWD LRT success stories. Something they said very bluntly is don’t LRT to early. It is for last resort.

Correct--from what I know of LRT and your situation, that wouldn't be the right tool. You don't meet the criteria laid out by the author. What you keep hearing is "GAL!", "IC!", "180s!" and I believe Sandi said "Don't LRT!" and pointed out LRT'd be difficult while living together and sharing an autistic son.

= Your spouse has said to you in no uncertain terms that s/he wants to get a divorce and it appears as if s/he really means it. It wasn’t just said in the heat of battle.
= You and your spouse are separated physically.
= You and your spouse still live together but have very little to do with each other. You may be sleeping in separate rooms, have virtually no communication, and little or no sexual contact.
= Your spouse has filed for divorce

I shouldn’t have tried harder to talk things out right after BD.

To clarify, the goal of avoiding pressuring her with R talk isn't just a LRT thing!!