Good to hear your update! Seems your ex-wife hasn't been thinking with a straight mind ever since she left. Sounds like she wants to have everything her way - the freedom to be single and be with her affair partner but the option of having family gatherings with you when it suits her. I haven't seen many instances where you've written here about her sympathy for you, or her concern for how you must be feeling. A good person would take into account how all of this impacts you, and would care about what's comfortable for you, rather than just asking and then blaming when you say no. I hope you can find a woman who cares about your feelings and who treats you with the utmost respect!
