Moving past D to a stronger me (pt. 7)

[Davide]

Hey folks! I'll post an update in a little bit, but I have a question first, as it is something I am struggling with a bit.


I have a dog that my EW still has "visitation rights" to. She had made it clear that she would love to take the dog while I traveled, so in an email I offered her the dog for one of my week long trips. Crickets. No response for nearly a full week. In the meantime another friend offered, so I took her up on the offer. I wrote to EW telling her this, and then she immediately wrote back saying how she had wanted the dog but excuse, excuse, blah, blah, blah... A week later my friend bailed so i wrote EW again, and she responded quickly but saying that she couldn't have dogs in her apt. Evidently she hadn't checked before.

Long story short, I found another friend, a common friend of EW and I, to take in the dog, and it was perfect situation - a fenced-in yard, another dog to play with. She was super happy. When I went to pick her up afterwards my friend mentioned that EW had stopped by on Monday night (her regular night) to walk the dog. I was taken aback, but didn't say anything in the moment since this guy had really saved my skin by taking in the pup (and has been a super important friend ever since the separation.) However, the more I thought about it, the more annoyed I got because I had never told my EW where I was taking the dog (I was legit annoyed at her) which means that the two of them had talked about it behind my back. I never, ever, put my friends in the middle, and if there is an event or the like, I'm happy to be the one to bail out to avoid awkwardness. It was clear that EW hadn't just happened to stop by the house - she had come by to walk the dog on "her night".

Last night I got an email, slightly annoyed in tone from EW saying that she didn't come by last Thursday (her other night) to walk the dog because I hadn't let her know that it was time to resume the normal schedule. She said that she would stop by tonight (monday) unless I let her know otherwise. I am quite tempted to sarcastically ask her why she didn't just ask our common friend what day I was coming back when she was there earlier in the week, but I recognize that isn't a particularly productive or mature response. Honestly, I am more annoyed at my friend than her, because I have no expectations regarding her at all, and he is someone I have relied on and trusted a good bit.

Questions
1) Am I overreacting? it seems like a breach of trust to me.
2) Do I say anything to my friend? (I feel like I need to)
3) Do I say anything to EW (my instinct is to ignore)