You have a good point and I'm aware it could be a false start. However I haven't seen any behaviour to suggest plan A is still on her mind.
Is she back in the bedroom? Asking to go to MC with you and making those arrangements herself? Initiating sex? No, because you are Plan B. Plan A for her right now might be a real person or a fantasy person she dreams about, but the bottom line is it's not you. I'm not trying to crush your hopes, just temper your expectations. You are seeing some positive signs and that's good. But it is too soon to expect this to be a significant turnaround. Stick to your DB'ing.
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Early days, yes, but I trust my gut here.
You can't trust your gut. Trust us. We've seen these situations play out many more times than your gut has
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It is possible I'm way off but I also feel less resentment, she apologised again for other recent behaviour, and she talked about how we can spend more time together. She also put her rings on, something that was a proxy for her feelings since BD. I also feel she has been conversing with her friends. In fact one had a strange comment for me about how I've changed and I appear to be in a better place. They talk, W and her friends. So ATM I'm seeing signs that this is genuine.
Great! Like Michele says, celebrate the baby steps! But celebrate them internally while continuing to DB externally.
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To me, sex will seal the deal, as it was a major issue for years.
If sex does happen then just be careful not to drop your guard and go into full blown pursuit mode. A lot of LBS's make the mistake of thinking sex means their spouse has done a 180 on leaving the M when in fact it often means nothing more than physical release to the WAS, or may even be them just getting Plan B to toe the line again.
