[quote=LH19]So perhaps the way to view some of these decision is: Am I setting a healthy boundary, or am I unnecessarily adding pressure?
Million dollar question for me as well. I feel like the two schools of advice (DB vs. NMMNG) are pulling me in completely opposite directions. I feel like I'm more confused than I was even right after the S, to be honest.
Yep. My brain and emotions have settled down, but the confusion persists.
I am trying to walk that fine line of DB and NMMNG. During our weekly phone logistical chat, W questioned a parenting decision I made last week. The old UC would have caved and just said “you’re right” and that would be that. The new UC stood up for himself, not in a showy or belligerent way. We ended up sort of agreeing to disagree. This felt like a small win for me vs. NGS. I stood up for myself because it felt right and true to my values, not because I was told to stand up for myself.
What to do about MC is very confusing.... A truly reformed NG would probably just do whatever he feels in accordance with his values and react with the cool calmness of Clint Eastwood to everything. That would also be in accordance with DB.
