If you are still in court, I think you want to always looks like the parent who does everything he can to make sure the kids have contact with W. Especially if you want to try to reduce her custody because of concerns about their safety or emotional well being. So I agree about saying that she can call any day at x time for a few minutes and that you will do the same. I think it is awful if the kids can't talk to you on the phone when they are with her! I got my D a flip phone so she could call me anytime. Maybe you can do that. But if your kids are anxious about her calling, you should set the time so there is not nonstop anxiety about when she calls and how long call will be, etc. My D has that with my H and it's awful but I am lying low because I prefer that to her going to his place, which he is not asking for.
AMAZING that she openly admits that her time with them [censored] and asked you to scale back!!! WOW. The in law stuff sounds awful but remember you are in the beginning of the dark tunnel. It will get better as truths become clearer. If I were you, I would keep inviting everyone, including the cousin, to parties and things at your place. Making all welcome is the best thing for the kids and the best way to keep the family ties going even through the bad times.
I want to encourage you again to get the guardian ad litem. Let that person do all the observing and let the situation speak for itself.
Last edited by Gerda; 07/29/1903:39 AM.
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