Thanks BT. I'll check that out. XW is with the original AP. They've broken up twice but keep getting back together. Amd the invitation to the cottage came out of the blue. I had to read it a couple of times and check if XW really sent it.
Me:39 W:36 S:12 D:9 T:14 M:11 Separation:sep. 1 2017 D filed oct. 2017 D finalized july 2018 OM confirmed feb 2018 D finalized July 2018
The fact is this. You have to be in pain before you can learn.