oz - Try this. Next time you feel worked up, just tell yourself STOP. No matter how strong the emotion, how jittery you feel, how badly you want to just do something, anything, to resolve it, just sit with it. Observe how it feels. Maybe it lasts 10 minutes, maybe 2 hours. I guarantee it will make you uncomfortable. Enjoy the discomfort. Notice how it feels. Notice that you are still breathing and still alive.
And when I say STOP I mean stop. Don't go talk to your W, don't jump up and burn off energy ... don't even come here and post to the forum.
Early in my sitch, I was having what I think were panic attacks a couple times a day. I was home alone, had nobody to talk to, I was miserable. I hadn't found DB yet. I thought I was having a heart attack many times. I was in complete meltdown.
Now? I recognize the anxiety. "Hey, that's anxiety, my old friend, how are you doing buddy? Kinda wish you weren't here, but pull up a chair I guess we're going to sit together for 30 minutes. And then I know you will get tired and eventually leave."
Emotional regulation is one of the greatest skills you can work on. It WILL transform your life. Take responsibility for working on your emotional regulation -- trust me, I started down this journey a few months ago and it feels amazing.
