Last night was a tough one, she went to a lingerie party her and her friends got invited to at a gay guy’s birthday. She didn’t come home last night and i really didn’t like what she was wearing.. but apparently i’m not the only one concerned with my wifes behavior and that she’s acting differently, her mother and grandmother are both concerned and noticed all of this. Her mom was talking to me about it and was brought to tears and told me i need to tell her my feelings and that i’m worried because she doesn’t think my wife will listen to her anymore. She hopes we can work things out and was giving me advice on what to say. She said she always worried about her kids (of course she would) but she never had to worry about my wife until now. She lost her husband in december so she probably feels like she’s losing one of her daughters. She also said that my wife has always been a very loving person (always wanting to love on people, so for anyone familiar with the 5 love languages hers would have been physical touch) but she’s noticed that for a while now she hasn’t been loving at all, she doesn’t live with her or see her everyday and she notices all this. My wife has told her that i don’t communicate and talk to her the way i should. One of my mother in laws suggestions was to talk to her and if that doesn’t work stop doing stuff for her so she’ll see what it’s like without me there, she has given up trying to talk to her own daughter because it wasn’t working, but i feel if we both talk to her in a certain way maybe she’ll see there’s legitimate problems..my wife has also taken a leave at work for a week, she said the house needs to be cleaned inside and out and that we need to figure things out about our situation. I’m not leaving that house or the bedroom and i’m not giving up on us. I won’t let her put me in the garage. She hasn’t brought up divorce for about a week now, and she was wondering what me and the therapist were talking about, if we were talking bad about her, and if we had to pay for it. I’m so drained though, do i need to tell her how i feel or will it be a mute point and make things worse? She said last week that communication was our main problem and that its too late now but after i communicated how i felt she acted more open and wasn’t as cold towards me
