Oz, as I said in my last post, you are several threads in and you cycle back to the same things you said in thread#1. You are never going to move forward by constantly coming back to the same conclusion. We've told you over and over again that sometimes doing nothing IS doing something. Yet you continue to resist, buck, and be compulsive.

Here is what I see. You're going to embrace her being back. Your MR will go back to the way it was pre BD. And in 6 months you'll be back here with another BD struggling with the same things you have for the last month and a half.

Your W gave you the gift of time with BD and the ensuing limbo you've been in. If you'll use that to grow personally then you might just set yourself up for long-term marital success. If you do not grow then you are doomed to be BD'd again. And as someone who has been through it twice now, 12 years apart, each one gets progressively worse.

Last edited by Steve85; 07/28/19 11:50 AM.
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