Regarding the OW to be honest I don’t see a way back in my marriage for whom she is. My husband is having a full blown physical affair with his ex girlfriend ( a woman that I caught him up having emotional affairs three times) during my marriage she was always a dark shadow. Our lives are upside down while hers is in peace, in her country (Argentina) living a great life with her husband and her twins teens. She has the meanings to fly in or fly him to her country as she wishes. She doesn’t work , my husband spend ALL day talking to her on WhatsApp, he’s being out job since February. It’s or feels over.