This is all fine....however, you will regret not doing what I said above......for the rest of your life....if you do not grow a pair and take back respect, then you will regret it for the rest of your life. You will look back in 2, 5, or 10 years and say "If I had stood up for myself, commanded respect, and done what I should have, who knows how it would have worked out."
Living with that regret would hollow me out. Whatever happens further down the line, I need to know I have done right by me and my kids. I can only control and be responsible for my own actions and inactions and will have to live with them.
Originally Posted by Steve85
Further, you have kids. And you have to set an example.People treat us the way we teach them to treat us. Your kids will know this.......
How would I answer a grown up D if/when she asks me why I didn’t do anything. She would rightly wonder why I didn’t do the right thing and stand by the family. She will need to know an age appropriate version of what W has done soon.
A S friend of mine lets his W treat him like junk in front of his kids when he sees her. They all now mimick her behaviour towards him and so he has lost all their respect. He continues to put himself in the situation where she gets the opportunity to do it. It will be a huge struggle for him to get the respect back.
