Midlife wife crisis8

[Wolfman]

Just got off the phone with my w. I actually called my d to see how they are. Today is my w’s day with the kids. She took the phone from my d to complain to me how bad the kids have been behaving and how hard it is for her with them. How they don’t do anything in the house to help and all the do is fight. That it’s not fair that I can come over and pick them up and they have no responsibility with me. That they get to do fun things with me. That I need to be a disciplinarian more and have to help her to get the kids to do things in the home. That it’s not fair that she wants to do fun things with the kids but she can’t.
She kinda caught me off guard with this. I validated everything g she said. How hard they are and that it must be tough when they don’t listen. But the idea that she wants me to have them clean the house and I don’t live there anymore is her problem. When I finally get my own place is she going to come to my home and have the kids clean up there? Probably not!! She really didn’t think this divorce thing through. Then of course at the end she hurried off that she is starting to have chest pains. Oh I almost forgot. She was saying right in front of them, how horrible they are, that they are a nightmare, how her students are better than our own kids. She is truly in a bad place. It’s very sad.

I’m sure the kids are angry. They don’t want this and have no control over it. But my w doesn’t get that because it’s all about her. D was suppose to make her life easier and more fun. She is really getting a taste of her new reality..

Any advice when she wants me to have the kids clean the house on the days I have them? Because that is bull.