I did call but I didn’t ask where she was, who she was with or when she would be home. I just said hey I’m turning in just wanted to make sure your ok. She said ya she was just still visiting with her friend and her husband and she was gonna leave soon. She didn’t sound irritated or anything
Sandi, ive read DR. when MWD lays out what will happen when you start LRT she says one of three things will happen. 1 nothing (it’s over and there is nothing you can do) 2 slow steady improvement 3 it’s rare but spouse comes screaming back like nothing ever happened
I feel firmly in number 2. We have made lots of progress. Enough that several times I have almost expected and ILY or something physical. She has opened up Emotionally some. Which she refused to do before. It’s in this area I would really like to help her. I don’t want to smother her. But if she starts to lean on me. I don’t want to walk off and let her fall I really think she is a WAW and MLC. I would like to bring up something helpful for her when she asks about what I’m thinking.
I’ve been run over by a vehicle, I’ve been in a car crash so bad cops said they don’t know how anybody survived. I’ve had all the skin burned off my stomach. I’ve had cancer I have autism. My teeth were brown when I was born. I have a 1 in a million disease in my eyes.
All of these things. I have fought. HARD. I have overcome them all by doing something. That’s why this is difficult.
On my illness insecurity, W did bring it up to ask when my MRI was. I cheerfully told her the date. (Wed sept 4) and said nothing more. Kinda a victory for me
When she opens up about what’s getting her down and I listen and validate as best I can. 30 min later when she asks wahat are you thinking about. I’d like to give a reply with some substance but I’m never sure what to say.
She is searching for a connection. If she tries to connect with me and I’m out doing my own thing and talking about myself. That scares me. I’ve always been a touch selfish. But I want to 180 that.
