I think a lot of it depends on what you want. But as you said, sometimes you think you want something when that is not the case. In my sitch I pressured my wife and it led to D. When I look back at it now, I wonder if I actually did a good thing by pressuring her to make a decision because I likely would have just extended limbo otherwise. Now, I have clarity on my sitch and I am able to move on. If there is R it has to be a new MR anyways. At least now I can move on. With every passing day I am also stronger in setting clear terms for a new MR and I am also detaching so if a new MR does not happen I feel I will be ok.
