Thank you to all who responded to my last post. I have had a very busy week. I started a new ft job while still working my PT job. I really like the new job and can't wait until health benefits start so I can leave the pt job.
I haven't seen anyone in my family all week. I have promised my kids that I will be home every night by the time they go back to school.
I will start calling attorney's starting Monday. I have been asking friends for referrals. I have a cousin who is an attorney. She would probably represent me for little to no cost. I'm just not sure if I want to involve her. I just don't want my relatives hating w if we reconcile. As of now no one knows about what is going on.
Lastly, w's step dad died 2 days ago. We had been sick for about 2 years. My w first started showing signs of replay about that time. When she first told me he died she began making plans to go for the funeral and to spend time with her mom. She made sure that I was available for the kids. I told her I would make myself available. I also told her I was available for her too. I told her that if she needed anything I would do it. She said thank you.
When I saw w today she told me that she decided not to go out to see her mom. She said that she didn't want to spend the money. Money is tight... It shouldn't be but it is. I didn't give her any advice. I just listened. I think she should go to see her mom. I will be quiet on that.
I am concerned though. I am feeling that if she doesn't go she is going to have another unresolved childhood issue. She has always had an issue when it came to dealing with death.
I also read somewhere that something like a death of a loved on can help to bring them back to reality and help push them through the tunnel.
Any thoughts are greatly appreciated. I am very thankful for everyone who is helping me!
