I don’t know. That’s just it. It feels like she is reaching out. It really does. I know that it goes against everything here.
But when she is telling me how stressed she is and is asking what are you thinking about. And I give the generic “what a nice day answer” it’s like I’m saying your problems are not important to me. Im just gonna focus on myself. See what I mean? She asks like 10 times a day. What are you thinking about. This will be after she has actually opened up to me a bit emotionally and told me what’s going on in her head
She opens up emotionally, not blaming me for anything, and tries to tell me why she is stressed. Genuine feelings about our life. No blame or anger or anything like that. And tell me what’s going on. Which is a huge step for her post bd.
And then she asks about what i am thinking about and I say the weather or work or something about myself?!? How can she think she can emotionally attach to me if all I seem to do is think about myself
She told me night of BD. my whole adult life it’s been about you and S. It’s never been about me. And she is right
The neighbor has said she is really looking for someone to talk to. About deep stuff. And you guys tell me to avoid the deep stuff. I’m so lost.
