1) No, I don't want her back if it's just because of the money. My thinking is that right now she seems out to lunch and hasn't really been hit with any reality check or sense of loss when it comes to me or our family. I've been very patient with her. I've read many times that eventually the loss hits the WAS and it can get them to actually think of what they are doing.
2) I'm wearing the ring since I feel it's the right thing to do but I do always look for a way to get a response from her and I need to stop that. I find that to be the hardest thing - becoming detached to this woman I married and had a good life with. I want her to know I care about her and am willing to work on our marriage and myself. I think I need to understand that I don't need to show her that anymore. She knows it already. I need to move on and focus on myself and my son.
3) I'm about 50/50 on the PA/EA. I totally understand what you are saying and at times I've been 90% certain that there is someone else involved. But then she moved back in for 2 months and was spending weekends here with me or watching our son. Just didn't seem like there was any time for her to be with someone else. Since she left 3 weeks ago I've come to think that there likely is someone else but I've had no proof of anything. Listen, it wouldn't surprise me at this point. Often I'll just assume that's what she's doing and it allows me to move on a bit easier. Mostly I'm just resentful that she seems to have decided she doesn't want to be an active mom to her son.
I'm a golf pro. I ran a good business making a good living and I've had to cut that in half since April so I could be around full time for my son when he's not in daycare. I'll build it back up but in the meantime I do need her to help out financially. I used to pay ALL of our bills/daycare/groceries and still put some away in investments. She had it pretty easy from that standpoint.
Thanks for your time!
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BD 12/18 Separated 2/19 Living back together 04/06/2019 W Moved out again 07/15/2019