Midlife wife crisis8

[Wolfman]

Destryd everything you wrote in the last paragraph is so true. She totally rewrote history, makes me the villain and she did nothing wrong. I always think maybe if I did this or that we wouldn’t be here. But from what I keep reading on here it would have happened eventually. It just hurts so much to give your heart and soul to someone and for them to not see it is scary and very depressing.

Dejavu I honestly believe my w is going through a midlife crisis. When our friends d drowned last summer (she is alive but in bad shape) it did something to my w. She started to question life particularly her life. She is chasing happy, but she doesn’t know how to make herself happy. I have spoke to many women I am friends with, some of them went through a MLC. Everything they told me they experienced and felt is my w. The problem is we are heading down divorce lane. There is nothing that is stopping her. All the women I spoke to said it took about 1-2 years before they came out of the “fog”. 2 actually told me it was like a switch went off when they realized their h was a good man and they want to Ben married. I really hate where I am right now. Emotionally and mentally. I have never felt this way in 41 years. It makes me so angry that she is putting our family through this with no remorse.

Ballast I am trying so hard to accept what is. Just like if there was a death I get it. But unlike death I would still be in my Himenez with my kids everyday. Even though I know I made the mistake of leaving it the long run she is buying Ken out and I will be without my home anyway. Only see my kids half the time. So I feel this is harder, and a constant reminder of seeing her all the time. This has been about a year going on and I still feel utterly depressed.

I have given my w time and space with no pressure and nothing changes. Unfortunately she is one of those once she makes up her mind there is no turning back. I miss my family!! I miss my life!!!