I initiated the conversation. I told her if she wants to do that then no more staying over here and no more family outings.
Good! Now stick to your guns on this! Don't let her cake-eat.
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This past Sunday I initiated more conversation as I've just been tired of all of this crap and I felt like she was just stringing me along. I told her that I loved her and have always supported her. I was willing to do counselling or whatever else it would take to work on our marriage.
She said: "I'm just not feeling anything. I thought I would miss you more if I moved out but I've realized I'm happier on my own. I don't feel like putting the effort in and I don't think it will change".
This is why we say not to temp check, because you always get this kind of wishy-washy response from a WAS. That is a reflection of how she feels at this moment in time, and even though she is speaking in absolutes her feelings towards you can and probably will change down the road.
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So I brought up the finances and mentioned shed probably be paying about $2,000/month in child support and she got pissed and said: "that's not going to make me love you any more" (manipulative).
Reality checks are usually not welcomed by the WAS. You probably won't get any financial relief voluntarily from her, you will have to pursue it legally.
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Any thoughts/advice?
Give her no quarter on this. You've had to hamstring your business to take over her half of the parenting duties. Your income is suffering because of it. Don't compromise on what you are due from her in the hopes that it will placate her (it won't). She's going to HATE paying you ANYTHING whether it's 100 a month or 10,000.
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I'm still open to working on our marriage but I also need to move forward with my life as I dont' want to feel like a Plan B. She's given me no indication that she wants to be with me.
She doesn't right now and probably won't for quite some time. Do what you need to do to protect yourself and provide for S. What happens later is unknown, you may very well reconcile but until that happens you've got to get your life in order without her.
