Maybe I know what to do 4

[SteveLW]

Agree with TB. Most LBSs come here thinking "my sitch is unique. DBing techniques can't work!" It is usually an excuse to avoid doing that which is counter-intuitive. But here is the thing: GAL, detachment (self-differentiation) and 180s should be part of a healthy MR!! The opposite is to not have a life (being dull and boring), being codependent, and never improving yourself. That is a recipe for disaster.

If more spouses DB'd before BD there would be much fewer BD.

So even if she comes back and wants to R.....keep DBing!!