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[bhappy2]

Updating:

Let me start with this, there is a real sense of relief and optimism in my house right now, my children and I have really become much closer in the last 12 months. I am just enjoying my time with them more and more. We have had two bbq's so far this summer (havent done this in the last 5 yrs.).

D20 may become a police officer as she is really asking a lot of questions. I will guide her best I can. All good stuff.

W sent over dog food and money for dog to go to Vet. I was very surprised, I texted her thank you and she texted back, said that she was happy to help. Sent a couple more texts joking around and she actually was playful. First time in two years.

D20 spent yesterday with W and couldnt wait to tell me all about it. Lunch, shopping... you get the idea.

S23 and S22 are no where near building a relationship with her as it will take more time, they are angry and not afraid to tell me, I valid them and tell them that is their mom and in time you will be able to forgive.

I contacted the soccer coach that I will be coaching with for my friend who passed away's son. I am really looking forward to this and I will give it 100% effort. I miss my friend so much.

I have a huge baseball card collection that I have just started to unpack, I forgot how much I enjoyed doing this. Plus I have some really valuable cards. I started to show my boys and they couldnt believe I save unopened packs, all the way back to 1981. I have many Cal Ripken rookie cards, he was one of my favorite players.

I also started to pay closer attention to my retirement funds, I enjoy reading about different stocks and companys. This needed more attention as I approach retirement.

If your spouse told you they want a D... you will have fear... but do not fear the unknown, I promise (that means my word) you wll feel better if you follow the advice on this site. Get a coach, read, but be careful not to try and absorb all the info at once. Let it soak in for a long time and process that info... take each step one by one... last but not least keep your mouth closed, not everyone will be there to help, some will enjoy your agony.