If I had a nickel for every time someone on here said their sitch was different I would be a millionaire. Do not break DB rules because you think your sitch is different.
99% of the WWs on here are in a crisis and are walking away because they’re unhappy.
THIS
New LBSs need to understand this. I often leave this out of my sitch, but when my eyes were opened to the fact that my W was unhappy, and she was doing what she was doing trying to be happy, that's when DBing became easier. If the LBS loves their WAS the way they should, then they want their WAS to be happy......NO MATTER WHAT! Even if that means the WAS has to walk away!! Our society is so selfish today that we LBSs often want our WAS to stay even if that means they are unhappy, depressed and even angry. What the LBS fails to realize is that is no way to live....for either one of you (or even the kids)! The truth is sometimes it takes walking away for the WAS to realize that the LBS is not the source of their unhappiness. That s why there is so much wisdom in: LET THEM GO TO GET THEM BACK!
And oz, and your last update, awesome work! Emotional detachment works, and that is why it is so important.
However, a bit of a 2x4. You were grocery shopping together at 10pm last night? But you can't find time to GAL??
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
