Moving Forward

[Jac12]

I saw my L today to go over what's likely to happen.

She'd be paying approx $4500/month in child and spousal support but I'm hoping to keep the house and my investments instead of getting spousal support. Just because she makes good money doesn't mean I need it all. I just want financial stability and a decent house to grow up in for my son.

I'm hoping that when she sees her L and sees the figure close to that number I'll be able to offer less/month in return for keeping the house and my investments and she may see that as a fair compromise. Then hopefully it stays a little more amicable for my kids sake. The lawyer also mentioned that when she sees the numbers it may be a bit of a wake up call to her that fantasy land could be over.

I've decided to keep my ring on for now - my dad mentioned it might still show her that I'm committed to this marriage in the event she is going back and forth. It may help her to speak up and initiate a convo. However, I'm not really banking on that happening. Part of me also just feels like until we actually divorce I'm still married. No PA or EA has been confirmed (yet) so I'm still thinking she's struggling mentally whether she fully realizes it or not.

That said, she's being cold again like she was in December/January but this time she's not texting me or sending me things on instagram. Maybe she believes it's over now. I can't worry about all the ups and downs - I need to stay neutral.