Hey Gekko, glad to read you are about to be in the new place and are excited for it! I know your sitch is far longer than mine, but I think you will enjoy finally not being under the same room as W. It’s almost like you can get peace at home finally. I totally agree with all your thoughts on seeing a persons nastiness. My W was always incredibly rude and nasty to her own mom. And granted her mom was not a great mother when my W was growing up, this behavior isn’t acceptable as an adult. You are right in saying we think to positively in the beginning, I did the same. It’s only a matter of time until the spouse becomes the target of bad behaviors.
