Sorry if I come across as harsh sometimes. Finding this forum in many ways has saved my life, and part of that is dealing with the brutal honesty that vets will deliver.
I think the forum (if I may speak for many) is concerned about your level of detachment. Improvement in your MR is great, but your eagerness to see improvement is a sign of being too attached. If it turns out the improvement is a mirage, or that you were just misreading things, you will be further devastated.
Once you are detached to a reasonable level, you can see things more clearly and put the rose-colored glasses in the trash. To Sandi's point, your posts sound like you are emotionally dragged all over the place by whatever thought, dream, interaction, etc. has crossed your mind most recently -- I know this feeling well, and the first step in getting out of this mode of operating is to recognize it is more harmful than helpful to you. Once you find some emotional stability where you are comfortable in your own skin, and not so hyper-aware to your W, you will feel much better (first and foremost) and also be able to see your sitch more clearly and make decisions confidently.
Keep in mind the forum represents (generally) a subset of the readers targeted by MWD. Most of us arrived at DB way too late to effectively apply the smaller steps to try to turn around our MRs before BD. However, the general principles (listen, validate, PMA, 180s, GAL, etc.) still hold true, and will help you regardless of what happens in your M.
BTW I like that you are questioning the forum feedback. Everyone here has tons of valuable experience and advice to share, and it is generally very consistent. Periodically, all of us (including myself) will project our own situation onto yours. It is up to you how you want to filter this information.
However... make sure you are questioning the feedback not because you don't like it, but because you truly feel there is an alternative choice that still makes sense and does not involve wearing rose-colored glasses.
