Try not to worry about her. Don't give her actions control over your attitude, thoughts, and feelings. It truly works this way. Attitude ---- thoughts ---- feelings. You have power over your emotions, you have the power to be happy!
And I would trust your gut. 99.9% of the situations here involve an affair. I'd stop answering her calls for a bit. Maybe text back a couple hours later and say "Missed your call, what's up?". Sometimes don't bother to call back. And every once in a while maybe you answer but act like you just walked out of somewhere and make the call quick, with you ending it first. She is moving out, which means she doesn't want to be around you, so SHOW her that she doesn't get you when she wants you.
It will be easier when you don't see her everyday. I'd make yourself much less available to her in the meantime.
Its just weird that when I think about it. Before the BD, most the time I didn't care what she did or whereabouts - now the news break and I'm running around like a chicken with my head off. I need to get my confidence back up to where I respect myself. I also would like to get my social life back and spend more time with my D. We didn't have to much of a social life before - more home bodied folks. I have a lot of military friends who come and go and we always sort of pick friends we'd like to hang out with due to trying to stay drama free. Now most of them are gone. I almost feel like the new kid at school who is trying to find new friends to hang out with. Lately I met a few people at late night rooftop hang out food spots, which is pretty chill and relaxing. I will most likely go do that Saturday night.
I will trying my best about responding later if not emergency about text messaging and not picking up every call. But I still get suckered in somehow when she wants to be in the same vicinity as me. Like you mentioned, I need to be more unavailable when she tries to reach me. Its hard to GAL on the weekdays, it just usually consist of work & gym than whatever errands I got afterwards. I try to stay busy for the most part so my mind doesn't wonder.
