Its been a little over about a month and a half since my sitch. I don't get my current state of my W. She was cold as ice this morning. Didn't say a word to me this morning at the house before leaving to work, no good morning or acknowledgement of any sort. Than when I get to work, she calls me roughly 30 minutes later and sounds all perky and talked for a few minutes. Its been like this for 2-3 weeks now, a vicious cycle. Thankfully, she will be gone for 5 days this week camping with my "Aunt" and I believe some of her friends. Like I mentioned earlier, I don't know if their is any types of affair going on but I have this nasty gut feeling. Than the second week of August, she is moving out. I think this will make it easier on me when I don't see her everyday. I mean that is what I tell myself, but I guess I have to see when the time comes.
Try not to worry about her. Don't give her actions control over your attitude, thoughts, and feelings. It truly works this way. Attitude ---- thoughts ---- feelings. You have power over your emotions, you have the power to be happy!
And I would trust your gut. 99.9% of the situations here involve an affair. I'd stop answering her calls for a bit. Maybe text back a couple hours later and say "Missed your call, what's up?". Sometimes don't bother to call back. And every once in a while maybe you answer but act like you just walked out of somewhere and make the call quick, with you ending it first. She is moving out, which means she doesn't want to be around you, so SHOW her that she doesn't get you when she wants you.
It will be easier when you don't see her everyday. I'd make yourself much less available to her in the meantime.
H 34 W 29 BD 3/12/18 Divorce Busted Spring 19
It is not things that bother us, but the stories we tell ourselves about things.
