Job, thanks for your guidance. we managed to have a conversation and he broke down in tears talking about his childhood and being unloved/unwanted whereas his sisters were put on a pedestal. He was always bought second hand clothes/toys whereas his sisters had new etc etc
He has achieved quite a lot in life and his parents have never told him how proud they are of him or that they loved him. Ever. He has been back in touch with counselling and is arranging to go back when we return from our holiday. I hope he does.
the oddest part though is that he seems to almost think he can just pick up where we left off in May before all this. Tying to hold my hand, asking for constant cuddles. Stroking my leg etc etc when we are sat next to each other. Maybe this is a phase. He said yesterday that he thinks making this work would be best but it was said sort of in a casual non heartfelt way. I didn’t ask him to repeat what he said and didn’t push to dig further.
And knowing how to respond to the physical touching, flirting is even harder!
