Thanks for the responses Unchien. It's much appreciated and you give me things to think about.
I sometimes think that she'll snap out of this fog. I've read it on here enough that a flip can switch and it's like they didn't even know who they were. This is 9 months in now which isn't really that long but I think I should stop believing that it will happen with her.
And to be clear...I have full confidence that I would meet someone else and take what I've learned in this to have an even better relationship. But...I do love me wife and if the old one came back I'd try to rebuild the marriage.
H 37 W 31 S 2
T: 7 M: 4
BD 12/18 Separated 2/19 Living back together 04/06/2019 W Moved out again 07/15/2019