I don’t know what is going on with your xw and it is disturbing when they do not act like the parents they used to be.
My own experience makes me feel your xw is treating d17 more like a gf with whom you gossip about boys.
Gordie 40s W 40s M20+ kids 2016 BD W fantasy affair w OM1 I do everything wrong 2017 I start to DB W says TLTL files for D PA w OM2 2018 I do LRT W drops filing and OM2 situation slowly improving