My story, trial separation for now, Part 2

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Hi Steve,

I've been following your updates. You realize there is a cycle here, and for you it will get easier every time.

It'd be great to hear her say it and have that reassurance, but that's unlikely.

Actions speak louder than words my friend. I know how bad you want to hear those things and so many others...it'd be like an angel coming down to take the weight of the world off your shoulders. The only difference is the weight is only in your head.

One thing that she did say in MC is that out of all the thoughts that make her sad, the one thing that really, really upsets her is the idea of us having no relationship at all, if I was just out of her life completely.

I notice that you didn't tell her that you aren't willing to be just friends with her. Does she already know this? At some point, she may need to hear it, or be reminded of it.

We're doing it because we want to be a more attractive partner for our WAW, as opposed to doing it for ourselves, and it feels empty because we have no pathway to show that effort.

In time, with effort, you can make it what you want it to be.

Hope NYC is treating you well, best of luck Steve.