Growing Pains(LB55 thread 4)

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So W is back from her boondoggle to Africa. She is sick with some mysterious virus that dehydrates you when you drink water. WTF??? That makes no sense. Part of me thinks she has an STD.

I told her my plan for the kids, to take them camping this weekend; she immediately agreed and then began telling me how to watch out for various illnesses in the kids and so forth. I said thanks, please remember I am a capable parent too.

Then she starts in again on the kids visiting my parents for a week. How its a willing gift from her and she doesn't have to ever allow them to see them ever again and so forth. This makes me so mad and my family will be so hurt. She isn't willing to let the kids spend time with my parents anymore because I am a jerk and want her to coordinate the transfer since it is on her day with the kids. I work from 0500-1900 most days. She wants me to drive 4 hours each way overnight to drop them off and to pick them up. So basically I would get up at 4, work 14 hours, drive 4 hours, drop them off around midnight and drive 4 hours to get home at 4 am to shave, shower, and put my uniform on and go back to work. I just cant do it. She doesn't work and stays at home.

She is using the kids against me here and it feels terrible. Either I do things her way or the kids don't get to see their grandparents again. How do I deal with that? The lawyers and courts won't do anything about it. Grandparents have no rights in my state to ever see their grandkids.