If she is in an EA or PA she isn't going to notice anything. It really depends on how far gone she is mentally out of your MR. Some women say they want a D but are really just scared and hope those words wake the H up.
Essentially her feelings toward you have to change and she has to view you in a different light. She has to start respecting you again.
How are you different now compared to when you first got married? How have you changed?
