Alanon is a 12 step program
You can hear a few meetings online
they run all day at specific times
check on line doe times and information if this seems like it may help you
it may help you deal with the drinking going on with your daughter-
and also give you support and ideas with your spouse

I would definitely moniter any finances as this girlfrind /OW may be a scammer as she has too many men

but whatever the issues the solutions seems the sam
detach
take care of you
rest, sleep, share and heal


married 14 years
H 42
bomb 2/07 IDLYA
D final 3 /09
M ow D ow