Alanon is a 12 step program You can hear a few meetings online they run all day at specific times check on line doe times and information if this seems like it may help you it may help you deal with the drinking going on with your daughter- and also give you support and ideas with your spouse
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but whatever the issues the solutions seems the sam detach take care of you rest, sleep, share and heal
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