Now what?

[peacetoday]

Hi

You sound like you are doing all the right things
seeing a lawyer and splitting accounts and taking name off credit cards

I would lean back as was suggested.
dont initiate anything

get a new hairstyle new outfit shoes, nails
make plans make new friends and activities as you already are

most important is work through your pain..seek therapy and heal grieve and watch
If it is true MLC..he seems a little on the older side..but if it is MLC, it will take him a while to get through

an average MLC takes 2-7 years
you already see the mLC behaviors:

affair
new clothes
cars. motorcycles
spending
gym
new friends
new jobs
hair change or color change
tattoos
partying
drinking
no responsibility

hang in there