Am I doing this right??

[Goddess8]

Any pearls of wisdom dealing with wayward H falling out of limerant affair fog?


It's been 48 hours since any communication with H. I am 100% sure he got wasted Saturday night. No clue if he's back in communication with OW after their falling out last week. He's yet to tell me whether or not he's broken up with her. I really don't understand how the wayward mind when it's a man works. I've read all the sitches with WW but no idea how to apply any of that to me. I don't know if it does. I sometimes feel I've wasted months thinking he was MLC. Only to figure out it's limerant waywardness. I know I am a better stronger person now than I was last year. The kids and I are so OK most days it's almost scary. To many deployments I suppose. We are used to getting along without him being around.

Is there ever an appropriate point to tell him to $#!+ or get off the pot? He's said he doesn't want a divorce. Misses his family. Wants me. Knows he f'd up big time. Didn't know if id take him back or want him at all after everything. Well now he knows where I stand. What it's going to take... No more OW period, counciling, working on past marriage problems, figuring out what lead to him having the affair. Transparency. I kinda worry I overwhelmed him. But at the same time I feel like it's a very reasonable list and normal things to ask for. He agreed to everything at the time. I know he's depressed and hates himself. Guilt is eating him alive. I know he's been drinking way too much. I can't help him he's got to be willing to help himself.