Thank you for the great analogy . Makes perfect sense. I cannot control what happens but I know I can control me. I have waited too long to confront her and force her hand. I have replayed in my head over and over what I am going to say, I have no idea what her reaction will be but I am prepared either way. I will tell her I wont live with a cheater.

I have two boys aged 18 and 16. What do I tell them in the event she leaves? Will I look like the bad guy for telling her to get out?

Don't count the days, make the days count.
Mohammad Ali